Internal Family Systems (IFS)

What is it all about?

I want to introduce you to a therapeutic approach called Internal Family Systems (IFS), which focuses on understanding and healing the different parts within your internal world. Just like a family comprises various individuals with unique personalities and roles, our internal landscape consists of distinct parts, each with its own thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.

Here's a breakdown of the key components of IFS:

  1. Self: At the core of IFS is the concept of the Self, which embodies qualities like com passion, wisdom, and curiosity. Unlike our parts, the Self remains steady and centered amidst internal conflicts and challenges.

  2. Parts: Think of parts as different characters within your internal family. They can take on roles like the Inner Critic, the Inner Child, the Pleaser, the Protector, or the Perfectionist, each with its own intentions and motivations.

  3. Exiles: These are the wounded or vulnerable parts that carry painful emotions or memories, often stemming from past traumas. Exiles are typically hidden or pushed away to shield us from further harm.

  4. Managers: Managers are proactive parts that aim to control or protect us from experiencing the pain held by the exiles. They take charge to maintain order and stability, examples being the Perfectionist or the Controller.

  5. Firefighters: These parts emerge in response to overwhelming emotions or situations, engaging in impulsive or distracting behaviors to provide immediate relief or escape from distress. Examples include excessive substance use or binge eating.

The goal of IFS therapy is to establish a healthy relationship between these parts and the core Self. Your therapist will help you cultivate a compassionate and curious stance towards your internal world, fostering understanding, empathy, and ultimately healing.

Through the IFS process, you'll learn to recognise and communicate with your parts, understand their roles, and transform your relationships with them. By creating harmony within your internal system, you'll experience increased self-acceptance, self-compassion, and overall well-being.